Speaking as a social retard - it sounds to me like you need to work through this with him. And if he's serious about it, he'll try to help you. Because it's one thing if a person is just insecure and trying to soothe their ego, but it's a very different thing if someone isn't sure they have the same definition of love or what a committed…
Speaking as a social retard - it sounds to me like you need to work through this with him. And if he's serious about it, he'll try to help you. Because it's one thing if a person is just insecure and trying to soothe their ego, but it's a very different thing if someone isn't sure they have the same definition of love or what a committed relationship is.
I don't know if I would send him this one though. I think that the more immediately relevant article to your problem would be the one where Curtis mentions the cold dead hand of the twentieth century reaching down his pants - where "love" is just a restriction of freedom labelled "unhealthy codependence." I think that does a better job of addressing the issue at play, which is fundamentally philosophical. What is love? Sending this article might address why his friend said that, but I don't think it would as clearly address why she's wrong. I personally would be hesitant to make it seem like it's about her rather than the philosophical issue. And that issue probably needs to be resolved, because it shapes the shared vision that you're both working towards.
But I have no practical real world relationship experience so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Even so, best of luck. I'm sure in time you'll figure out what is right.
Speaking as a social retard - it sounds to me like you need to work through this with him. And if he's serious about it, he'll try to help you. Because it's one thing if a person is just insecure and trying to soothe their ego, but it's a very different thing if someone isn't sure they have the same definition of love or what a committed relationship is.
I don't know if I would send him this one though. I think that the more immediately relevant article to your problem would be the one where Curtis mentions the cold dead hand of the twentieth century reaching down his pants - where "love" is just a restriction of freedom labelled "unhealthy codependence." I think that does a better job of addressing the issue at play, which is fundamentally philosophical. What is love? Sending this article might address why his friend said that, but I don't think it would as clearly address why she's wrong. I personally would be hesitant to make it seem like it's about her rather than the philosophical issue. And that issue probably needs to be resolved, because it shapes the shared vision that you're both working towards.
But I have no practical real world relationship experience so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Even so, best of luck. I'm sure in time you'll figure out what is right.