I am quite familiar with the Manosphere as it was my first "redpill", which lead me to the NRX spaces and those that overlap with it.
I will admit, I haven't spent much time in those spaces for a good few years, only checking in now and again. But I do think about the lessons I learnt in those spaces often. Particularly older men finding…
I am quite familiar with the Manosphere as it was my first "redpill", which lead me to the NRX spaces and those that overlap with it.
I will admit, I haven't spent much time in those spaces for a good few years, only checking in now and again. But I do think about the lessons I learnt in those spaces often. Particularly older men finding it easier to date younger women, so I'm not worried about reaching my 30s and still being able to attract women.
I certainly wasn't looking to marry this woman I dated for the last 3 months and in hindsight, she was quite damaged, or certainly needs to work on her issues. A lot of my friends and family have said I dodged a bullet and I'd agree at this point.
The concerns of the Manosphere about divorce and so, are valid concerns, one I take very seriously, which is why I am not rushing to get married anytime soon. However, as I mentioned in my question to Curtis, I've had my fair share of flings and causal sex. I'm no Warren Beatty, but I've not struggled to get laid and after a certain point, it gets tedious. I do often wonder how much is enough and when am I going to have some real skin in the game i.e. have children. Otherwise, what the hell am I doing.
Well it seems you are well aware of everything I said. As for it being tedious - nowadays trying to build a relationship usually is. This is not the Old Order when the roadmap from courtship to marriage was a very formalized and straightforward process. There are no rules anymore. And when there are not rules, there are only evolutionary rules, which, unfortunately, are not by themselves very conducive to building the particular type of monogamous relationship you are looking for in a world in which any exercise of male power (soft or otherwise) over women is Crime Against Humanity #1.
If you want to have a stable long-term relationship in which you build a family with kids, you have to "train" your woman. There is no other way around it. Nearly no woman nowadays comes already trained for that. If you do find one, the gods must love you. To be able to successfully train your woman, you must first make sure that she is 100% attracted to you on a primal level, purely as a sexual partner and considers you the best man she has ever had sex with. If the woman does not see you as the #1 alpha she has ever been with, you will be having an uphill battle. If you have that, you should be able to train her into being a good wife.
But the attraction part is key. The desire must be genuine and not because she is now in her early 30's, with her biological clock ticking out, looking for the best deal she can cash in while she has not completely lost her youth. This is why I said Curtis' advice is not very good. A woman like that is looking for a deal, she wants to transact - sexual access for you, resources for her. She is not looking to give genuine desire for another person, or at least she is prioritizing the transactional type of sexual relations above it. This is a clear way in which a 22-year old is better than a 32-year old. With the former you are absolutely certain that she is having sex with you because she truly wants to have sex with you. It is harder to know with the latter.
I am quite familiar with the Manosphere as it was my first "redpill", which lead me to the NRX spaces and those that overlap with it.
I will admit, I haven't spent much time in those spaces for a good few years, only checking in now and again. But I do think about the lessons I learnt in those spaces often. Particularly older men finding it easier to date younger women, so I'm not worried about reaching my 30s and still being able to attract women.
I certainly wasn't looking to marry this woman I dated for the last 3 months and in hindsight, she was quite damaged, or certainly needs to work on her issues. A lot of my friends and family have said I dodged a bullet and I'd agree at this point.
The concerns of the Manosphere about divorce and so, are valid concerns, one I take very seriously, which is why I am not rushing to get married anytime soon. However, as I mentioned in my question to Curtis, I've had my fair share of flings and causal sex. I'm no Warren Beatty, but I've not struggled to get laid and after a certain point, it gets tedious. I do often wonder how much is enough and when am I going to have some real skin in the game i.e. have children. Otherwise, what the hell am I doing.
Well it seems you are well aware of everything I said. As for it being tedious - nowadays trying to build a relationship usually is. This is not the Old Order when the roadmap from courtship to marriage was a very formalized and straightforward process. There are no rules anymore. And when there are not rules, there are only evolutionary rules, which, unfortunately, are not by themselves very conducive to building the particular type of monogamous relationship you are looking for in a world in which any exercise of male power (soft or otherwise) over women is Crime Against Humanity #1.
If you want to have a stable long-term relationship in which you build a family with kids, you have to "train" your woman. There is no other way around it. Nearly no woman nowadays comes already trained for that. If you do find one, the gods must love you. To be able to successfully train your woman, you must first make sure that she is 100% attracted to you on a primal level, purely as a sexual partner and considers you the best man she has ever had sex with. If the woman does not see you as the #1 alpha she has ever been with, you will be having an uphill battle. If you have that, you should be able to train her into being a good wife.
But the attraction part is key. The desire must be genuine and not because she is now in her early 30's, with her biological clock ticking out, looking for the best deal she can cash in while she has not completely lost her youth. This is why I said Curtis' advice is not very good. A woman like that is looking for a deal, she wants to transact - sexual access for you, resources for her. She is not looking to give genuine desire for another person, or at least she is prioritizing the transactional type of sexual relations above it. This is a clear way in which a 22-year old is better than a 32-year old. With the former you are absolutely certain that she is having sex with you because she truly wants to have sex with you. It is harder to know with the latter.